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When I reached the age of 40 and I still didn’t have a child, I knew I had a problem. If I’m honest, for the last few years I’d wanted the child more than I’d wanted the boyfriends….. so you won’t be surprised to learn that not only was I childless but I was single too.
Adopting was my salvation. My funny, handsome, clever son came to me in summer 2005, after a very difficult start and 4 years in foster care. He was six and three quarters. I’d had 18 months of intensive preparation for adoption to get me to this point. A team of skilled social workers taught me about the effects of early trauma on a child, and helped me understand how I could use my strengths to become a therapeutic parent. I will not deny that I have sometimes found parenting immensely challenging. But nothing beats it, and I am happier now than I have ever been.
My early journeys with J were short and sweet. But as he has got older, we have travelled further afield and J has thrived on the variety of experiences in a way that I never could have anticipated when I was preparing for adoptive motherhood.
These days I work more than half the week in a London university, managing programmes for students from overseas, which is a job that I love. My first career though was in tourism, where I spent 13 years, latterly running the youth travel division of a respected tour operator. My enthusiasm for scheduling every last minute knows no bounds, as my family can attest! So now I also offer, from home, a professional trip planning services for individuals, families and groups. I’d love to hear from you if you would like more information!
Finally….. I have had such a positive experience and would love to see more ‘older children’ (those aged 5 years plus) being considered for adoption in this country. I would like to be involved in raising the profile of older children adoption in any way I can, and welcome all and any suggestions. Please use the Contact Me button to get in touch.