Dear Judge MacGregor
My mum thought it would be nice to write to you to tell you how I feel about being adopted. To be honest I don’t know how I feel because it doesn’t make much of a difference. I last saw V when I was 3 and I don’t remember her. I miss Colleen and Ray and also they were very good at looking after me. That’s why I have always loved them because they loved me and cared for me. Now I feel loved by my whole family especially my mum. In fact when I was younger I used to send my mum Valentines. The best thing about this family is that it’s perfect.
At the age of 10, when he wrote this eloquent and touching letter to the judge who presided over his adoption, J was an avid reader, but did everything he could to avoid writing. He found it a real struggle. J wrote this with barely any encouragement from me, in his best handwriting, and every word is his own. I love that, unprompted, he reflected and brought together his birthmum, his much loved foster carers, and his new family in one letter at this transformational moment in his life. In fact I burst with pride.
I am linking this post (his post) to the Weekly Adoption Shout Out over at the Adoption Social. Many adopted children and their parents face daily challenges together and this is a forum where parents can share in both the good and the bad times.